Thursday, February 11, 2010

An Hour Can Change Your Life...

Happiness comes in so many different forms, in the company of good friends, feeling young and alive or when you make someone’s dream come true. It’s okay to let yourself be happy, because you never know for how long that happiness will last.

Have you ever sat and wondered how long it would take you to change your life? What amount of time is enough to be life altering? Is it the four years of High School or the three years spent at University? Can your life be changed with a three week tour of Europe or a trip up the coast? Can your life be changed in a year, a month, a week or just a single moment?

When you’re young, an hour can change everything…

Everything you ask? Yes everything…think about it, you get a call with good or bad news which could change the way you feel about certain things or people. You could fall off your bike and decide to never cycle again when your destiny might have been to one day compete in the Tour de France. Impossible? Not at all, a lot can happen in an hour and not all of it is always good. Do we allow these things that cross our paths to alter who we are, how we feel and what we think? People can influence you in ways you don’t even suspect, you change your lifestyle, opinions, tastes, hobbies etc for other people to accept you, but do you accept the new you? It’s easy to just say yes, but if you really go and think about it, do you really like the person you have became because of what others are or think?

Most important is to know who you are and not care what people think of you. If you are true to yourself and who you are - people will start to see the real you and come to appreciate the real you.

Some of us can admit to trying hard to be ourselves but failing because we were afraid of looking stupid. But what very few of us realise is that by following others like little children we do in fact look stupid. Why can’t we all just have the confidence to be ourselves completely? Who ever decided what was “cool” and what was not? Who decided what opinions were right or wrong? I believe we are all entitled to our own opinions and feelings. That is what makes us all unique. How boring the world would be if we all felt, looked, dressed and thought the same?

People are going to label you, but whether you become those labels or believe you fit the label is up to you. Do you allow people to label you? And do you become those labels? Who gave anyone the authority to create a label and allocate it to a certain person? Aren’t we in charge of our own lives and personalities? So why not decide who you are and what you want to become and stick to it? Stand up for what you feel and want, become the person you will be proud of one day when you look back at your life. That’s the one ‘rule’ to live by…will I be proud of the person I have become and of the things I have done to become that person? If not, then make the change now while you’re still young. It’s never too late to change your destiny…so go out and make some history.

If you could go back in time and change just one thing about your life, would you? If you could, would that change make your life better? Would you choose an entirely different path? If we answer yes to these questions why didn’t we choose the different path from the start?

Is there a moment in your life you would like back, something you wish you had done or said to someone before it was too late? Then what stops us in that moment that makes us not say the things we want to? What makes us hold back on what we want to do or say?

My advice would be to live life so that you leave some great memories behind. Live life so that you have no regrets. Live life in a manner that will make you proud when you, in your old age, reflect back on your life.

Today, this hour, could change your life so live it wisely…


  1. Loads of great questions, made me think of moments I would have changed or challenging moments I have been faced with that moulded me to the person I am today. I would have liked you to perhaps answer some of them too - what moment would you have changed and do you live you life according to labels?

  2. 1 hour can make a huge difference, I tend to be very impatient and often hurt the people closest to me.

    So it makes me think how if I change things in my life, how I interact with people- it will have a ripple effect on how another person's day goes and the difference between a good day and shocking one.

  3. To answer your question Olivia...there are many moments that stand out in my life that changed me...but one that stands out is when a friend I considered a good person and a great friend showed me through her actions what type of person I was becoming. She turned out to be not such a nice person with morals and values I did not agree with but was too 'shy' to admit it.

    I didn't like what I saw in the mirror, it took me a long time to work up the guts to break ties with the entire group of friends, probably the scariest thing I have had to do, no one wants to be alone.

    But I have never looked back, never felt this free and I love being me again.

    I try not to conform to any labels, for years I lived as I thought other people wanted me to, and I decided no longer. I am who I am, you take me as I am or you don't.

    So who you know and see now is who I really am.

    I hope this answers your question...